"Yes," said Eustace, "and whenever you’ve tried to get her to come and talk about Narnia or do anything about Narnia, she says ‘What wonderful memories you have! Fancy you still thinking about all those funny games we used to play when we were children.’ "

"Oh Susan!" said Jill. "She’s interested in nothing nowadays except nylons and lipstick and invitations. She always was a jolly sight too keen on being grow-up."

"Grown-up, indeed," said the Lady Polly. "I wish she would grow up. She wasted all her school time wanting to be the age she is now, and she’ll waste all the rest of her life trying to stay that age. Her whole idea is to race on to the silliest time of one’s life as quick as she can and then stop there as long as she can."

"Well, let’s not talk about that now," said Peter.


The one I wanted to throttle was Polly. Lucy is possibly young enough not to really get it yet but Polly was a grown-ass woman and should have known better than to talk that kind of shit about a young woman wanting to stop being a child.

Susan wanted to grow up. She wanted (as mentioned in ‘The Horse And His Boy’) to fall in love and get married. She worried, she protected, she mothered. And she was the only one, the only one out of all of them, who got it right. Aslan told them they had to move on. To grow up. To find him in their own world. 

Susan was Aslan’s big fucking success. The others couldn’t do it. They couldn’t take the lessons they’d learned in Narnia into their own world. They couldn’t make a difference there - no, they all spent their time obsessing with getting back. Narnia was heaven for them and they couldn’t function anywhere else, so Aslan took them back one last time to suspend them forever in the only world they wanted.

Narnia was not Susan’s heaven. Narnia was not what Susan wanted. Eternal youth and innocence was not what Susan wanted. Susan wanted to grow. Susan wanted to grow up. Susan wanted love, and family, and her own world. Susan’s heaven was the one drawn from Earth, from a life lived to the full.

Since I was a kid, I have always thought of ‘The Last Battle’ as a very sad story because it is ultimately a story of failure. All the ‘kings and queens of Narnia’ die and are brought back to the dying magical world because they couldn’t accept what Aslan had told them over and over about growing up and moving on. They weren’t supposed to come back. It was a final act of mercy that Aslan allowed them to do so, since they couldn’t bear to live in their own world.

I think Susan would visit them someday, with her queen’s crown and her blazing red lipstick and the lines of growth and character on her face, and very gently explain to the perpetual children in Narnia that she was thankful that Aslan hadn’t taken her with the others. That she was thankful for her children and grandchildren, for boyfriends and husbands, for a life that was full and happy and productive. That she never needed Narnia to be happy. That she missed them, that she’d mourned for them, but she wouldn’t change her own choice for anything.

thegreatgodum said: on reflection yeah, kinda over-reacting :P most people who put a :3 at the end of their message are not trying to yell at you. like I agree that it’s not reasonable to check every FAQ to see if something’s ok to reblog, but nobody is attacking you…

They caught me at a really bad time, and I’ve seen posts like that where people are trying to be mean, and I guess I misinterpreted it. But they still taught me a very important lesson: don’t try to show support if you’re not totally up on all the nuances of the politics of an issue. You’ll just look ignorant and stupid. Stick to cats.

thegreatgodum said: there’s no such thing as a good ally. there’s just humans that do stuff on a scale of relative harm or benefit to others. you don’t get to give up on your first error (haven’t seen the post so don’t know if over-reacting, just thought I’d help)

Thanks, I just wasn’t aware that there were tumblr posts that I wasn’t allowed to reblog. I know about not speaking for LGBTQ people since I’m straight, and I know about not speaking for POC, since I’m white, but I was just a little hurt that I wasn’t even allowed to reblog things to show support. I guess there are just so many shitty straight/cis people in the world that all of us have to be banned from some things.

It just shocked me, and it honestly never occurred to me to check a blog’s faq to see if an (unfortunately) American, white, cis female was allowed to reblog their posts. I’m actually really surprised it hasn’t happened sooner, with all the things I’ve reblogged. That’s why I’ve made the decision to not reblog anything remotely controversial. I’ll still like posts to show support, but I won’t offend people by putting them on my blog. I’m still not sure about Welsh things. I think I’ll wait until I’m in Wales and can actually identify as Welsh legitimately before I start reblogging stuff that could be considered inflammatory to, say, the English.

It brought home to me how little I understand these issues, and in trying to show support, I’ve offended someone. Very easy for someone with my sheltered upbringing to do, and it saddens me. I should just learn to keep my big mouth shut, really.

Anonymous asked:

Um, it's on their blog's FAQ. And how was politely informing you of that not warning you? I didn't yell at you or anything, because I assumed you didn't know, but now you do.

I apologize for being so short with you earlier. You caught me at a bad time. I must admit that my feelings were hurt because the only way you could know that I was cis was if you’d been following me for a while. I don’t state it anywhere on my blog. If you are one of my non-binary friends, why not just tell me as yourself?

I am relatively new to Tumblr, and I assumed that I was showing support. I was vaguely aware of the whole “allies do more harm than good” mentality, but I was hurt that this would be applied to me. I wasn’t making fun of anyone, and I know that no one who follows me would be an asshole about it either.

In the future, I will check the faq of every single blog I want to reblog something from. I wasn’t aware that’s what was expected. You have also taught me that I am not a good ally, so in that case, I will steer clear of anything remotely relating to this topic.

I apologize for causing offense.

Ok, I think it’s time for a little blurb in here because I have been getting a lot of new followers lately. Some of you have Welsh urls and so I get why you’re here. Croeso!

But I think some new ones might not get my blog. Look, I’m a shy, insecure person who tries to be nice to everybody. I hate causing offense and I hate confrontation even more. I am all on board with causes such as feminism and LGBTQ rights, but I don’t understand all the political nuances that go with such causes. I’m relatively new to Tumblr and I reblog posts that I like.

From now on, I will stay away from posts that have anything to do with any sort of controversial subject, and shall stick to cute animals and landscapes. It is clear that I do not have the intelligence or understanding to be involved in these causes. I’m sorry to have caused offense.

Anonymous asked:

Just as a head's up: the owner of gender of the day has asked that cis people not reblog their posts :3

Well, then they should have it written somewhere on there. Just trying to support friends. Sheesh. Just thought it was cute. Might want to consider warning us so we don’t tread where we’re not wanted.